Where does a funeral take place?

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Jewish funerals can be held in a variety of locations. Some are conducted entirely at the graveside, while others take place in multiple locations—beginning at a funeral home, and then proceeding to the cemetery.

 

When does a Jewish funeral take place?

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Traditionally, burial takes place as soon as possible, typically within 24 hours. However, this isn't always feasible, especially since many modern Jewish families are spread across the country. As a result, it is often necessary to wait a day or two to allow all mourners to gather. Jewish funerals cannot be held on Shabbat or most Jewish holidays.

Who wears a torn black ribbon and why?

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Jewish tradition designates the following individuals as "official" mourners: parent, child, spouse, or sibling. These mourners wear a torn black ribbon, known as a Kriah ribbon, as a visible sign of their grief and mourning.

 

 

Why do people shovel dirt on the grave?

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Jewish tradition teaches that one of the most important mitzvot (commandments) we can fulfill is helping our loved ones find their final resting place. This act is both symbolic and deeply meaningful. Our presence at a funeral serves as a powerful gesture of support, while placing earth in the grave is a profound expression of service, love, and respect.

 

 

What happens after the burial?

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One of the most important mitzvot we can perform is nichum avelim—comforting the mourners. This is done by visiting the home of the bereaved during shiva, the designated days of mourning, offering support and companionship during their time of grief.  I'm available to lead one or all Shiva Minyan services for an additional cost.

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